Symbiosis | Sharing | Harmony

Write That Book!

by Lee Sok Lian|李淑莲

The printed proof of my first book “If You Think The Water Is Cold – A Cancer Survivor’s Story” has finally shipped! A week or two from now, the book will be available on This is the Acknowledgments page from the digital proof:


Siew Khim (also known as Xiuqin and Qinjie to family members and friends) and I spent many happy hours together gathering the material from September 2011 to October 2012, from collecting, transcribing, and analysing the many interviews to checking the content and going back and forth to family members in Singapore to ascertain facts and the spelling of names. Siew Khim and I communicated in Mandarin; the book had to be written in English. Some guesswork was inevitable. And many hilarious moments.


I relied heavily on first-person accounts provided by the character. Siew Khim’s keen memory and attention to detail aided our work greatly. This work would not have seen the light of day were it not for the guidance and support of my coach and mentor, Chairman Tan Hong Khoon. I owe Mr. Tan a huge debt of gratitude.

Yong Shao expertly detected missing pieces in the draft and made it coherent with invaluable input and advice. Joanne Lee’s penetrating insights led to the rewriting and publication of the story in its current form. I am forever grateful.

Throughout this time, numerous soul mates have appeared and enriched my life and Siew Khim’s in many ways.

This book is for all of you.

Lee Sok Lian


TV Undermines School Performance, Health And Happiness

by Lee Sok Lian|李淑莲

A colleague requested help with motivating her five-year-old granddaughter, a reluctant learner; the matter had weighed heavily on her mind for days. I asked a few questions about the family’s habits and quickly came to the conclusion that family life revolved around the television set at home. The grownups in the little girl’s life hardly read.


In China today, it is every parent’s wish to see their offspring earn a degree from a local university at the bare minimum. Even before the child is born, parents living in rural Shanghai do all they can in their power to relocate to the suburbs, closer to the city where the good schools and amenities (including public transport) are to be found, in hopes of giving their child a head start in life. The drilling begins as soon as the child enters kindergarten.


Get A Head Start In Life By Rising Early

by Lee Sok Lian|李淑莲

“… if someone is up early in the morning, then they are serious about life. I can’t take time at the office to do this, but doing it in the morning allows me to get exercise and stay connected with young people at the same time.” ~ former Oxygen Channel CEO Gerry Laybourn

Rising with the sun

Why Challenging Ourselves Is Important

by Lee Sok Lian|李淑莲

According to Yang Meizhen’s 26-year-old daughter Xia Yan: “Mum has changed so much. She is now much more sociable, outgoing and positive. She no longer suffers from insomnia. She even shows me new moves for Chinese chess and ping pong!”

Yang Meizhen, 50, perfecting her ping pong technique
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